“Guess where we’re going?” He asked me in the Uber.
Mega Motor had just picked me up from a strenuous upper body strength training session where several expletives escaped my mouth in a short span of 30 minutes. He scheduled a session for me with a former University of Michigan strength coach, knowing I would get a kick out of a different style of training and I LOVE U OF M.
I didn’t meet Mega Motor for the first time until after the session. The second part of the date was a surprise. I knew he was a triathlete (and a damn good one – he just qualified for the USA team) but I guessed rock climbing or bowling.
He laughed in my face. I was amused more than intimidated, even though I knew he was going to demolish me.
He already knew before we met that spin is not a forte of mine. But I was still roused up. Mega Motor knew I wouldn’t back down from beastmaking principle #5:
Push on the edge of your comfort zone.
This went down a few months ago, and obviously, Mega Motor and I aren’t in a relationship. But I am tickled happy he is part of my life now. Sometimes I wonder why I bother trying when I date, but then there are cases like this to remind me why I put myself out there.
Before we met, he shared the same thoughts I had: “I have a good feeling. No matter what, we share something unique in common. And that’s hard to find.”
There was no pressure, but a profound respect and admiration for each other and our shared intensity/commitment to our fitness endeavors.
That’s how it should be: No pressure. I’m just starting to realize how important to eliminate pressure in the beginning, regardless of how hopeful or excited both sides may be.
I know that Mega Motor will be, in addition to my coach Mat, a supporter and a person to thank when I exceed my performance benchmarks next year.
Because of him, I have survived brutal stair sprints at Swallow Cliff and split a marathon on the rower to support Recovery on Water. I’ve never gone more than 3,000 meters on the rower in one day, and I knocked out 20,000 meters (we alternated 2,000 meters until we finished 40,000 in 2 hours, 52 minutes).
You won’t see me at the rowing championship anytime soon, though. He’s set on dragging me into triathlons and claims I am going to be spinning and swimming in time, but I like my barbells.
But I am more determined to elevate my rowing capacity to level: Captain Rower Badass.
What were the dating gains?
Even though we did not become romantic, I am more open minded to new fitness challenges but this goes in hand in hand with being open in dating. You don’t know who will have what effect on you.
Communication wise, it seems like fitness is the ideal medium for our communication. Mega Motor and me don’t use sign language when we communicate, or talk/do things that aren’t fitness related!
Not that there’s anything wrong with that. But Jason of Defined Nutrition made a wise comment when I introduced dating to my blog: “Something to consider is the idea of people getting together only because they’re both active, and how the dynamic changes if they aren’t training – being active together. It’s a hard balance to find.”
What’s the takeaway for you? And me?
I fiddled with this question for a while. Then I talked/signed out loud and this spilled out of my mouth/hands:
Screw it. Go with the heart. There’s no logic with chemistry and where you find it. I thought someone who pushed me out of the comfort zone in this way would be immediately make me head over heels. In this case, the challenge just didn’t expand beyond the fitness scope and that’s not all I want.
But at least I keep doing what I do: Chasing knowledge and adventure and pushing the edge of my comfort zone.
I hope I can inspire you to do the same. There is some normalcy and rewards in dating, after all! Except that one time where I was trapped on a run-down couch playing Mario Kart…you’ll have to message me privately about that one.
Anyway…as my mom says likes to say, on and forward we go.
I’ll work on eliminating pressure with future dates and work on becoming Captain Rower Badass.
With that said, in honor of our friendship and rowing, try this beastly rower workout as a workout finisher or for when you’re short on time and want to torch some holiday gains.