Foreplay helps when sex drive is asleep. So how can we apply it to our slow exercise days?
Yes, that’s right. I’m going to talk about using the power of foreplay to increase your workout motivation.
Call it one of my focus techniques. And a clever attempt to grab your attention.
You know the work we have to put in when our other half isn’t feeling it. (Or the work they have to do to persuade you.) Nibbles. Charm talk. The kind of stuff that that signals you “Hey, wake up, something good is about to happen, don’t blow it.”
You shouldn’t have to miss out on a workout, but by using lessons from foreplay, you have three power moves to bring in play before your workout:
1. Create Something Inaccessible
You know what the best part of the foreplay is? When something becomes inaccessible. You want it more.
What have you been working on? How close or far are you from your goals?
Instead of quitting, crave it. Are you getting closer to nailing your handstand? Are your squats slowly increasing in weight? Your goals are waiting for you.
Visualize yourself in a few weeks when you’e committed to this workout you’re about to face. Stronger, more mobile, sexier.
That layer of you is already there, it just needs to be brought forward. If it’s not enough, imagine how you’re going to feel by the end of the day when you decide to not go through with it.
Tip: Use visuals
Instead of lighting scented candles (do people do this anyway?) and waving something in front of you, you can use visuals. I think some people do that for the other type of foreplay, and it is legit.
We all have people we look up to for ideas and inspiration – Crossfitters, yogis, olympic lifters, runners – whatever tickles your fancy.
I also love using progress pictures. I recommend keeping track of your own pictures.
I still have my before and afters from more than two years ago to remind me I would prefer to not to slip back into a softer version of myself. It was not a bad place, but I was not as hard bodied, hard focused and driven.
2. Set the Mood
Here is a really good foreplay move: Sending your sweetie a scandalous text (or picture) in the hours leading up to game time.
So in workout foreplay, it could go like this: Have someone hold you accountable and ask them to text you the exact workout you said you wanted to do, or even better, have them send you a picture themselves at the gym post-workout. Now you have to go, too. I am glad to be yours, too, by the way. We can tag team on Instagram or Snapchat!
Instagram is a great place for this (and for Foreplay Move #1, too). Sometimes I will watch videos in the morning during the commute and get envious so I layer in these additional exercises in the day’s workout.
Start following your favorite fitness humans (why, yes, I do have an Instagram account) and magazines like Men’s Health Mag. A couple of recent favorites are @mattinmotionnyc for making strength seem graceful and @ryanthomastraining, a coworker who makes you rethink stretching.
3. Signal to Your Body “It’s Time”
Do a few push ups.
Get in a handstand to get the blood flowing to your head. (This is a great trick in the morning, too.)
Roll out what feels tight.
Reverse lunges to stretch hips and work the legs.
Rub your belly.
Tell your butt it is go time with glute bridges.
Check out yourself with warm up shoulder external rotations in the mirror. Look at that face, how can you tell yourself no?
Movement prep is necessary before a workout anyway, and I can almost guarantee you 9 times out of 10 you won’t want to give up after you’ve already started your blood flowing.
Some days we get right down to it. Other days we need the extra coo-ing and woo-ing.
Keep these moves in your back pocket and you will be ready to go, any time.
*Somebody asked if this was me in the picture. It is not.