As a trainer & fitness diehard on the dating scene, it’s no shock I tend to go on active dates.
My blog eventually comes up in our conversations, and I adore discussing all kinds of ideas from motivation to exercise to mental strength with my dates. I often gain new perspective and bits of inspiration for the blog.
I’ve done handstands, went hiking in Seattle spontaneously, took spin class, played flag football, been challenged to pull-ups and a freestyle swim in Lake Michigan, and more.
A different kind of ‘gains’
Not every date led to a second date or left me with much to say, which is normal, but there have been several times where I’ve been rewarded me with different kind of gains: By defying the comfort zone in other ways, increased confidence, what quality communication means (imagine being Deaf in a hearing dominant singles scene), and more.
I’ve spent a few months joking about feeling like a buff Carrie Bradshaw who likes to power clean and buy Nikes instead of Jimmy Choos, and how I should do a “Fit in the City” kind of blog. Feedback was positive, but I was a little chicken…
Then last Thursday I had dinner with Dan John, and I dropped the idea after a couple glasses of red. I wasn’t sure if it would be a good fit for my audience, but when this best-selling author laughed and said he liked it, I knew I had to try.
The more I thought about it, it does make sense.
Fitness impacts my dating life by giving me another medium to communicate with my date, as well as the strength, confidence and balls to deal with the up and downs.
The hard parts have always unmasked something positive, the same way we have to push our bodies physically to get a better place.
Not to mention it’s fun (most of the time) and helps me see how we click in an active and/or competitive setting.
Since I’m just starting this, I have a little catching up to do with my stories, but hopefully you’ll like the flavor I think it will add to Lift>Live>Lead.
Every one I talk about will have a code name. You can start with Feet Dude from summer in “Yes, Really – I Flew to Seattle for a Second Date!”