I welcome to 2018 the following: Red lipstick, self-love, sport bras, trying new sports, and a rekindled commitment to the helping others through my work.
I was able to make room for these things after I read 25 Things I Stopped Doing in This Year, I was immediately inspired to start writing down things I stopped doing myself, or at least things I want to stop for good!
When I was finished writing, a feeling of revitalized confidence cascaded over me.
It was liberating.
Because these changes are already taking place.
Letting go creates more space for you to be able to focus on things you want to accomplish, or at least approach it with a revitatlized attitude.
With these things I want to “leave behind” in 2017, I feel lighter. Prouder of myself. Life will continue to throw us off our footing some times, but with less weight pulling at me, the easier it will be to recenter myself and stay my own best friend.
1: Neglecting my potential. The more I help myself, the more I am able to help others. By helping myself, I mean I am willing to say no to certain things if it means saying yes to regeneration, time with my loved ones, investing in personal development, etc.
I ADORE this bit by Earl Nightingale in Lead the Field:
If you’re worried about your income and your future, you’re concentrating on the wrong end of the scale. Look at the other end. Concern yourself with only increasing your service by becoming great where you are, and your income and your future will take care of themselves.”
2: Skimping on regeneration and self-care. I make sleep a priority, go to bookstores alone to wind down and surround myself with new ideas, invest in memory foam and fuzzy blankets.
3: Finding reasons to blame myself when dates or a new romance doesn’t work out. It’s easy to do this when you so wanted something to last. But I continue to do me and stay proud of my vulnerability.
Putting in the work to be vulnerable is less work than trying to make up for lost connections and opportunities to build a relationship over time.
4: Avoiding the rack with gorgeous sport bras. I used to do this because “nobody would see me wear it, I’m too bulky to show it.” Not anymore. The picture above was a picture I was afraid to share at first until it made me stop and think: I am proud of my strong body because it is a reflection of my resilience.
5: Focusing on heavy PR’s and crazy scores. Competing in my first CrossFit Open got a bit intense. I still love making PR’s and improving my skills, but I don’t dwell on it. What’s important is the bigger picture…that I can go on a hike spontaneously or have the athleticism to try any new activity any time I want (like surfing and winter biking). The 300 lb club isn’t everything.
6: Thinking wearing lipstick was too much. I advocate the “natural look” especially when you work in a gym, but damn, I love a good red lipstick. Somebody brought me a tube from Sephora…and I forgot how much of a bold woman it made me feel like. Nothing wrong with make up or no make up. I say 2018, I’ve got a new signature look.
7: Hating burpees. I LOVE THEM now. Our Burpee-or-Bust challenge was a success, and now we’ve got a little group of challengers committed to becoming stronger and motivated keeping each other inspired with new challenges. January one is here.
8: Thinking Sundays were limited to meal prep and “catching up.” When I get many ideas I’m passionate about, sometimes I feel obliged to be “productive” or “hustle, hustle.” One of my favorite viewpoints I learned in 2017 is from Seneca: Life is not short. WE make it short. So, if I have an opportunity to see/learn something new, bond with people important to me, make new friends (network!), then I’ll take advantage of it. I can meal prep any other day of the week if I schedule it. Top performers do not say “I’m too busy.” They prioritize.
9: Keeping my emotions bottled up. It could wear and tear at a relationship or the culture. We get feelings for a reason, and should acknowledge them so we can grow, adapt, and progress together.
10: Saying no to tattoos. I love my Kismet and Karma tattoo. It serves me as a reminder going into the new year to stay in love with the act of love. To keep giving. To stay committed to my purpose of helping others through my work.
#TBT to last week’s spontaneous tattoo. The idea came to me while I was in Bali and learned about ‘Kismet.’ I fell in love with the word (which means fate, fortune,…but it’s also serendipitous to me). But, I believe Kismet can only exist with Karma. Our energy, mindset and actions influence our future. I wanted to get both notions tattooed. So! My last leg of the trip was on Lombok island & I looked for an tattoo artist. I couldn’t find one. But I looked up ideas…and guess what I found within five minutes? Lombok typeface. Total kismet. The other K is mirrored on my inner ankle. #kismetandkarma •••• #ink #lovemyink #spontaneous #ferrisbuellerday #throwbackthursday #tattoo #karma #kismet #bali #lombok #damniloveindonesia
What are you going to stop doing to make room for your vision in 2018?